Have you tested what happens at 3200 or 3333 with 4 first Timings and voltage from the original XMP profile? 18-19-19-39 1.35V?
I think the first timing is most difficult to tighten down.
Maybe try flip timings around?
18-18-18-38
18-18-17-37
18-17-17-37
17-17-17-37
17-17-16-36
17-16-16-36
Most likely there is someone with way better suggestions than me on this for timings to try^^
Try set eventual and boot DRAM voltage to same, 1.35 or 1.385.
Might need a little more SOC voltage for 3333, I would still try fine tune SOC voltage on both in small steps.
Noticed setting to 1.38 DRAM voltage have rare voltage drop on CD memory channel for me.
bumped it to 1.385 DRAM and it seems to stick to 1.351 so far.
Be sure to have DRAM Current Capability set to 130% and DRAM Phase Control to Extreme.
Might want to look at CPU and SOC Current Capability too, might help increase stability.
Current Capability only increase overhead before it fails, it does not change anything except that.
Of course it leaves less room for mistakes like setting wrong voltage to high. 😛
If anything overclocked or memory related fails/ be sure to Clear CMOS and "load optimized default",
this will help to get a fresh start even thou you have to redo your settings.