I'm assuming the 1.5v on IO and SA rails is a typo? That much voltage will cause irriversable damage to the CPU, including the memory controller.
It's not unusual for memory stability to lessen with more voltage. Stick to no more than 1.35v as an absolute maximum. If still no joy, you may wish to enter sub timings manually for that kit, which can be viewed via applications like AIDA on the SPD tab.
4000Mhz on 4 DIMM boards can still be tough without additional tuning for some CPU. It's always best to opt for a kit one or two notches lower than the maximum validated frequency for optimal results. Lastly, I would consider lowering your sights on length of stability at those frequencies. If you can pass HCI Memtest for 500% coverage, or Google Stress App test for 1 to 2 hours, I would consider that stable enough for most workloads.
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