It could just be that your CPU can not do more than that with the cooling you currently have. I find that a bit surprising I must say.
You can manage your memory using the different dividers as you know, so changing the HTT above 200 should not be an issue. 215 or 220 are normally quite the sweet spot and your ram will have head room too.
Might be worth exploring those option.
Look at the voltages that are being set while on auto and write them down some place. It could be one or two are a touch too high and may be the cause of the heat production.
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